गैरत .... (self respect)

The World’s View of Self-Respect

Respect is defined in the following way: “To feel or show deferential regard for; esteem; to regard with honor; an attitude of admiration or esteem.” Knowing this, we can conclude that self-respect means to esteem or honor the self.
Now, one might ask, “What is wrong with respecting myself? If I don’t know how to respect myself, how can I show proper respect to others?” Is this a valid concern? Is it really necessary to respect yourself in order to respect others? What is the danger of respecting yourself?

We all place ourselves at various levels, and we are constantly falling from these heights. It is the falls we are ashamed of. Self-esteem is the cause of our shame, of our fall. It is this self-esteem that must be understood,

Why have you put yourself on a pedestal called self-esteem, human dignity, the ideal, and so on? If you can understand this, then there will be no shame of the past; it will have completely gone.
It is this avoidance of what is, of what you are, that brings about confusion and antagonism, shame and resentment.

Most commonly our  definition  for self respect is constantly changing  due to our constantly evolving  understanding of  society and our self.  But if  we want  respect for us and for our deeds , we need to
understand others and give them  fair share of respect they deserve. 

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जब   रास्ते   हो गए हों   इस कदर बेहया    

तो  तेरी अपनी  गैरत,  को राह पे छोड़  दे.  

जिस राह  पे अब, न मिलता हो वो सकूं .

तो  चलते हुए इस कदर अपनी आंखे मूँद ले. 

जिस  शहर  में , तू नहीं है,  बेइन्तहां भीड़  में 

तो उस शहर में   तो , जलसों से  दूर   रह .

जिस महफ़िल में , तेरी सिरकत  का,कोई  मोल नहीं, 

तो  उन मजलिशों  में  तू , एकदम बेफिक्र  मौन रह .

अगर तेरा साया , लुप्त   गया हो  तेरे  कदमों में,

तो  भाग कर किसी  ऊँचे   दरक्त    को खोज  ले.

अगर   फँस  गया    हो एक दर्दनाक तूफ़ान में

तो अपनी काल्पनिक  उड़ान के पंखों को खोले ले.

अगर कोई नहीं देता मायने , तेरी आहट को

तो  एकदम दबे पावों से , उतरना सीख ले.

अगर   मिल गया  हो तेरा प्यार तुझे अचानक

तो   अपनी  गैरत, को  दुबारा से, टटोल    ले.